Yearly Archives: 2011

30 November, 2011

Last week the New York Times magazine published an article called “Teaching Good Sex”, about a coprehensive sex-ed class at a Quaker school in the United States that premises itself on an open discourse about sex and an embrace of sexuality. Al Vernacchio, Laurie Abraham writes, thinks that “if kids are starting to use their bodies sexually, they should know about their potentialities.”

Right now most sex-ed in America follows two lines of reasoning: that sex is an awful thing that shouldn’t be done, or that sex is an awful thing with which, as a last resort, a condom should be used. Varnacchio, alongside a smaller group of educators, believes that a comprehensive sex education for teenagers functions as a “force for good,” and that it should be approached realistically as heavily braided with risk, responsibility, and pleasure. He urges his students to “know their own minds, be clear about what they do and don’t want and use their self-knowledge to make choices.” He allows students to ask whatever questions they have and answers them frankly and from several perspectives.

One little note, Laurie Abraham also wrote a little follow up to her article that was posted on the New York Times’ 6th Floor Blog: “What Sweden Knows About Orgasms.” She writes this little anecdote about the experience of a sex-ed class in Sweden:

Q (Student). “What is an orgasm, and why do people talk about it so much?”
A (Teacher). “Orgasm is the moment of highest pleasure during sex, and that’s why people talk about it so much.”

Abraham’s point here was that American sex-ed neglects to talk about pleasure and desire in sex, thus alienating students, who are at the same time plugged into a media-driven world where graphic sexual imagery is rampant. She, and other writers agree, that if an open conversation about sex does not start in the classroom, it might begin in the places that do not foster nonjudgemental instruction on bodies, birth control, disease prevention, healthy sexual attitudes and relationships, and responsible choices.

Abraham brings up a topic about porn that several of her responses dilineated on: that if teenagers don’t get their sex education from educators, they will get it from porn, which will instill at a very early age unhealthy sex roles and stereotypes. While this is not obviously true of all porn, yes, we agree that if teenagers are only exposed to mainstream porn and not aware of how to have an open conversation about sex, it becomes much more difficult to have healthy sexual relationships. Amanda Hess talks about this very beautifully in her article, “An American Oddity: Sex Ed That Actually Talks About Sex.”

She writes:
“If we miss out on the basics at a young age, when do we evolve into full sexual adults, people who know what we want and how to get it? Proponents of “disaster prevention” sex ed seem to think that if we teach kids about sex at a young age, they’ll mature too quickly. I was educated on that assumption, and I’m still waiting to really grow up.”

This article appeared on the cover of the New York Times Magazine and was followed by many other articles responding to it. That’s great! We’re happy that the American media is beginning to accept sex positivity as a part of the mainstream conversation about sex. We also hope that this will draw more attention towards people like us who are working to create alternatives to the way that we experience sex.

Another interesting article following up this debate in Slate.

 

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25 November, 2011

Many women have talked to me about their doubts… “Am I still a feminist if I…
-…wear high heels?”
-…cook dinner for my boyfriend?”
-…decide to stay home to take care of the kids?”

and also “Are people going to judge me for it?”.

I think it’s time to take into account modern feminism, this new way of understanding gender fights in our modern society, because although there are still many gender issues, it’s not the 1950′s anymore.

Feminism at its core aims at giving women the right to do exactly what they want to do. It’s ok to want to look nice, not because it’s our duty to look good for men, but because you should do whatever makes you feel good, healthy, strong… if you like it, wear it! It doesn’t matter since our looks aren’t (or shouldn’t) our only attributes, they don’t define ourselves as a person. High heels especially, they’re not a symbol of male domination anymore, they’re just a matter of fashion.

high heels

The difference is that now it goes both ways: men also take care of their looks, they cook, they take care of their kids… So go make a sandwich for your boyfriend! This oh so charming phrase doesn’t go with the sexist context anymore, since your boyfriend will probably cook the day after and wash the dishes…

As Hannah Woit explains here, feminism gives us the right to do what makes us truely happy.

Not doing certain things because it might trigger male reactions is also a kind of dependence, so do whatever the f*** you want! As long as it’s respectful to yourself and the others.

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23 November, 2011

Hello everybody!

I would like to invite you to the Cabaret Desire presentation party to celebrate with the crew and I the release of the film and the hard work we’ve all put in.

It will take place in Barcelona, at Tinta Roja along with the Poetry Brothel and the performance of Cava Cabaret. So come have a drink with us and enjoy a great night!

For the occasion, the DVDs of Cabaret Desire will be available for 20€ instead of 30€, so take advantage of it!

Entry is 5€

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17 November, 2011

A new DVD pack is now available on Lust Store: Shortbus + 9 Songs. I know many of you are looking to get the best of indie porn and build a nice collection of the best modern directors, so I try to gather all this material on Lust Store.
Shortbus by John Cameron Mitchell and 9 Songs by Michael Winterbottom are two of today’s most explicit indie movies.

Both movies are available individually on the store, but if purchased together as a pack it’ll allow you to save 20€.

9 Songs
In London, England, love blooms between an American college student, named Lisa, and a British glaciologist, named Matt, where over the next few months in between attending rock concerts, the two lovers have intense sexual encounters.

Shortbus
A group of New Yorkers get caught up in their romantic-sexual milieu converge at an underground salon infamous for its blend of art, music, politics, and carnality.


15 November, 2011

I recently discovered this debate about the “Hot Chicks of Occupy Wall Street” video by Steven Greenstreet as well as the tumblr blog.

So I wonder… what does it take for a woman to be taken seriously? Such a powerful movement and still the attention is drawn away from their message to their boobs.

I understand the feeling, really, empowered women are hot, but why take away their words, reduce them to “pretty faces” and expose them like cattle? Is that the best way to participate and help them?

Greenstreet defends by saying:
Wow, seeing all those super smart hot chicks at the protest makes me want to be there… Hmmm… Yeah, let’s go with that.

We instantly went to Tumblr and made [Hot Chicks of Occupy Wall Street]. Our original ideas were admittedly sophomoric: Pics of hot chicks being all protesty, videos of hot chicks beating drums in slow-mo, etc. But when we arrived at Zuccotti Park in New York City, it evolved into something more.

There was a vibrant energy in the air, a warmth of community and family, and the voices we heard were so hopeful and passionate. Pretty faces were making signs, giving speeches, organizing crowds, handing out food, singing, dancing, debating, hugging and marching.

via The Society Pages

This poor taste isn’t good at all for their protest and just removes credibility to their fight, especially since there had already been narrow-minded comments and “anti-sex hysteria” by the media.

Why not focus on their intelligence? their bravoury? their strength?

Here’s the video – what do YOU think?


10 November, 2011

Have you ever read Anaïs Nin’s letter to the erotica collector? – He paid her $1 per page in New York City and returned each story with the criticism: More Sex Less Poetry. Anaïs Nin was a French-Cuban author who wrote erotic literature. That’s what she wrote to him:

If you nourished your sexual life with all the excitements and adventures which love injects into sensuality, you would be the most potent man in the world. The source of sexual power is curiosity, passion. You are watching its little flame die of asphyxiation. Sex does not thrive on monotony. Without feeling, inventions, moods, no surprises in bed. Sex must be mixed with tears, laughter, words, promises, scenes, jealousy, envy, all the spices of fear, foreign travel, new faces, novels, stories, dreams, fantasies, music, dancing, opium, wine.

Read the whole letter

Thanks to Kimberly Shrieber for showing me this quote that fits so well my philosophy of sex and pleasure.


8 November, 2011

Thanks to SexyFeminist.com I’ve discovered this new book by Michael Kaufman and Michael Kimmel called The Guy’s Guide to Feminism.

Both authors are educators and dedicate their time teaching boys and men about gender equality.

Of course it caught my attention: I think feminism needs men not only to do more but also to show that it’s not about a war between women and men but a mutual effort to make things better for everybody. Men are also pretty useful for sex… a good understanding of women’s rights is important for men to have healthy sexual relations.

In porn, many men also need a change and they’re bored with the typical gender representations. With today’s men, a skinny blonde with big boobs might not do the trick, so they’re also entitled to change their standards and create a better product.

Here are a few reviews the authors would like to hear from their readers, it’s pretty funny actually:

“I read The Guys Guide and I’ve completely changed my mind on abortion rights. What an inconsiderate sexist I used to be!”
Rick Perry, Republican candidate for the US Presidency.

“I finally get it! I guess women should be priests after all. Thanks Michael & Michael for setting me straight!”
The Pope

“Hmm. Maybe we should just pillage from now on. I’m going to order copies of The Guys Guide to Feminism for all my men.”
Attila the Hun

Check it out!


4 November, 2011

I don’t have much time to myself lately, so when I do, when I want to watch something and just have a rest, I want something I really like, and I’m also really fed up with turning the TV on and seeing the super sexist Two and a Half Men.

So I started looking for a good tv show, and I found The Good Wife. I’m almost done watching the first season (please no spoilers) and I’m really surprised about how good the show is. It takes the character of a woman whose politician husband just cheated on her with a prostitute and allegedly became corrupt and goes to jail.
This woman, called Alicia, then has to get out of her stay-at-home wife role and gets herself a job as a lawyer (she didn’t pursue her carreer for the sake of her husband’s job) to support her family. It takes the typical quiet wife character out of the stereotype and shows all her potential.

The show is genuinely feminist since it shows common sexist situations: how she is seen as her husband’s wife, not herself, how people think she got her job thanks to her husband, how many think she sleeps with her boss, how even some people during a business meeting congratulate her for her looks. It’s amazing to see this clever character rise up in court and be herself, not only as a woman, but as a person with opinions and responsabilities.

However, it’s not about women against men, all characters whatever the gender are authentic and all can be smart, greedy, funny

There are also a few more female characters on the show that really show intelligence, political involvement and professionnal success.

Here’s the trailer, I advise you watch the show!

I’ll keep looking for good stuff on TV or on the big screen and keep you posted!


2 November, 2011

Last week the great team of digital trend hunters Tendencias.tv gave me a great interview and discovered the Lust world…
They asked me about porn, women, the Internet and Cabaret Desire of course.
Hope you enjoy it! Subtitles in English available…

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Erika Lust from tendenciastv on Vimeo.


27 October, 2011

Tomorrow I’ll be receiving freshly baked DVDs of my new film Cabaret Desire! The DVD includes a nice packaging, a booklet with pictures of the making of, and several bonus videos…
Here’s a little video I made because I’m really excited! Half a year of work will be in my hands tomorrow. Many people have already pre-ordered it, I hope you’ll all enjoy this film, my most ambitious project so far…

More info on www.cabaretdesire.com

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25 October, 2011

The awesome website Feminist Frequency recently published a video about The Straw Feminist ie all these clichés that are spread in the media, films, TV shows… that represent feminists as a group of angry, irrational and stubborn women on a war against men in order to exagerate and make them look ridiculous.

Think about it, how many times did you see the supposedly “feminist character” in a film or a show? The completely irrational women with stupid revindications.

In this video, Anita Sarkeesian talks about different TV shows that actually talk about current gender issues but that usually discard a rational outcome because what’s actually worse than being a woman in our society, is being a feminist.

The result is that many young women are in favor of equal rights but they don’t consider themselves feminists because they want to avoid this social caricaturisation of feminism.

So according to the media, I can’t be a feminist, I can only be anti-feminist or “feminazi“. I’ve actually encountered myself with this phenomenon with people who are unconsciously victims of this cliché: for example in some articles they’ve referred to me as “Erika Lust: THE ULTRA feminist”. What does that mean? Can’t I be a regular woman fighting for my rights? Do I have to be categorised as an irrational woman who fights for unimportant issues?

You should watch the video it is really very interesting.


21 October, 2011

Hi everyone,

Yesterday, between work and family time, I found myself with a little while to rest, so I got myself a cup of tea and turned the TV on, hoping to find something entertaining. Unfortunately this nice moment didn’t last long, since I ended up watching “Granjero Busca Esposa“, the equivalent of reality show “Farmer wants a wife“.

I already knew about the show but watching it after a long day of work just made think my job was completely useless since that show had millions of viewers and shamelessly spread sexism every Wednesday night.

Beside the usual drama of these shows, this one in particular takes us back 50 years in the past.

A farmer with a nice house, some money and pets welcomes 2 o 3 women ready to fight to be the final farmer’s lover. A real fairy tale, isn’t?

But let’s point out first that these women compete for a man they don’t know, hence my question: Why?

Well, the concept of the show is apparently based on the fact that we, women, are ready to prostitute ourselves for a nice house and financial security. You know, because we can’t get it ourselves, we have to look for a man to provide for us.

This show is so obvious it makes me sad: Do women have to be with a man to accomplish something? Do they only have their sex to help them get things in life? Is being with a man our ultimate goal in life? And is that what we want to raise our kids with?


18 October, 2011

I’m happy to announce that you can now find almost all movies by Tristan Taormino on Lust Cinema, my online erotic theatre.

They’re educational films that show you techniques about how to explore your sexuality, and there is a wide selection of videos: oral sex, positions, threesomes, bondage… all the trailers are here.

But who is really Tristan Taormino?

She’s an author, columnist, editor, pornographic film director (and occasional actress) and self-styled “anal sexpert.” Taormino is the author of four books, including the Firecracker Book Award-winning The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.

I think she has a very interesting view on sexuality: “I don’t really identify with the label ‘bisexual,’ nor does it feel like it accurately describes me…I see myself as queer, since queer to me is not just about who I love or lust, but it’s about my culture, my community, and my politics. The truth is, even if I were with a heterosexual guy, I’d be a queer dyke. People want to call me bisexual or pansexual or whatever, but I believe in people’s power to self-identity.”

She’s a woman who makes things happen, she’s an entrepreneur, and she’s not afraid to break the taboo on female sexuality.

Check out her trailers and films!


14 October, 2011

There was an interesting article on Jezebel about orgasm the other day. It seems that orgasm is the endpoint, the mandatory finality of sexual intercourse.

Since the general pre-conceived idea is that women don’t come that easily and that men always get off no matter what, there is now a big pressure on performance for men. They have to use all their tricks so the woman comes, and this is as much about the woman’s pleasure as the proper ego-satisfaction: if she comes, then I’m a good lay. It also works the other way around: when men have trouble having an erection or an orgasm, many women automatically associates it to the fact that the guy isn’t attracted to them.

So in some way the ability of your partner to orgasm is somehow the reflection of yourself, of your hotness, your looks…

But the more pressure, the less fun!

The thing is that orgasm isn’t a button to push. Depending on the time, the thoughts in your head… you might come easily or not, if you’re a woman or a man.

What I’m saying is that this orgasm-based measure of self value is based on pre-conceived ideas about orgasm. Of course getting off is important, but the journey is all the more crucial, having a good time and enjoying the moment is what it’s all about, that’s what I try to show in my movies – sex as an experience, not a race for orgasms. We’re not robots, and sex isn’t mechanical, so we shouldn’t try to act as some kind of athletes.

I would also like to add that it’s great that guys care for women’s pleasure. Sex is more open, more honest and more mutual. Way to go guys!


11 October, 2011

I’d like to talk today about the great variety of toys and tools women and men have access to now. I mean, we’ve all seen annoying ads on the Internet for sextoys and the famous fleshlight…
But I’d rather talk about the real research that is put into place to understand better how to trigger pleasure. There are a lot of different creations that give a real choice to people when searching for the best toy or accessory, and sometimes it’s even difficult to choose what is best for you: materials, colours, effect… Let’s try to study this up and help you make the best choice for you.

Dildos, vibrators and stimulators

  • Luxury for your intimacy

There isn’t only the Pink Rabbit from Sex & the City, there are a lot of different dildos and vibrators, even many are home-made.
The famous Swedish brand called Lelo is one of the world leaders in the making of quality and even luxurious toys. Ergonomic, skin-respectful materials, high-tech and shapes that will trigger every bit of your special parts. Vibrators, massagers, rings… The price is a bit spicy but the quality is definitely worth it.
They even offer a 10,000€-vibrator covered in gold, for the most VIP clits of course…

  • Home-made pleasure

Many artisans have put their work into making the most refined and adapted toys. Icicles make hand-blown glass dildos that are both beautiful and handy. These massagers come in several shapes that will give you much pleasure.

BS dildos are also very nice. They’re home-made, hypoallergenic dildos by this brand from Madrid. The traditional techniques and the constant research result in original and body-like toys, for oral, vaginal or anal use.

    Modern toys

The toys from Fun Factory are very modern and come into various shapes and colours. Their range include lots of different toys, stimulators, vibrators… that include high technology and fantasy designs.
You also have the posibility to connect your Naughtibod to your iPod and enjoy the vibrations to the rythm of your favourite music.
You may also make your partner vibrate with a remote control with the famous French Déclic for example.

For men

Men also enjoy using toys, and not only for their partner’s pleasure. Many different toys are developped everyday to improve their sexual experience.
The Tenga Eggs are now pretty famous, courtesy of Japan. These revolutionary toys for masturbation or foreplay with inside veins simulate real intercourse.

Vibrating cockrings like Lelo’s will prolongue sensations. Furthermore, there are also a lot of anal toys, such as the Bendybeads by Fun Factory, that many men usually find satisfying.

Couple love

Of course with your partner it is also nice to enjoy a little game or massage. There are millions of different gels, lubricants…
I personally love the massage gel by Lelo or the silk gel by Bliss Bliss
I would also advise for water-based lubricants to ensure the best quality of condoms.
The body to body massage gel by Shunga is also pretty fun. It comes with a water-proof blanket for you the rub yourself on with your partner with the gel.

Of couse there are many more toys and I can’t review them all here, but it’s importante to know that there are a lot of different toys that are actually good quality and made for seeking the optimal pleasure for every situation. It’s ok to spend time looking for the perfect accessory.

To conclude this post, October isn’t only about Hallowe’en and zombie dildos, it’s also Breast Cancer Awareness Month, so remember to do the regular check-ups!


6 October, 2011

Mutantes, Punk Porn Feminism, is a documentary by Virginie Despentes, as the continuation of her book the King Kong Theory. Years of exploration, interviews and testimonies have finally come into the shape of a daring, violently rebelling piece, that was released last year. I don’t know if you’ve heard about it, and since feminism is subject to far too many clichés, taboos and controversy, it’s interesting to see with this kind of work that feminism isn’t always what we see in the news, what we see in films. It’s easily portrayed as a useless and angry movement from unreasonable women. Its relationship with sex and porn is often misunderstood, misinterpreted. Feminism is too often reduced to few topics that hide the infinity of other issues, such as sexwork. Virgine Despentes unveils this debate in Mutantes.

This is the description of the documentary from the Dissidenz label website:
Unlike the abolitionist feminist movement, the pro-sex feminist movement, which began in the United States during the 1980s, asserts that representations of the body and of pleasure are areas that must be taken over by women and sexual minorities and that pornography must not be subject to control by the patriarchal state. It also calls for the legalisation of sex work; female sex workers, porn actresses, strip teasers and lesbians have begun to speak out and to talk about themselves, generating a new culture that includes articles, books, films, documentaries, music, comics, artistic performances, etc.

Made up of about 20 interviews filmed in the United States, France and Spain, the documentary gives the floor to pro-sex activists and follows the evolution of the movement from the 80s to the present, from its pioneers and its successors to its proactive activists in France and Barcelona. It also reveals previously unknown images directly tied to the subject (excerpts from films produced by activists, updates on their activities, archives of their works, performances and street demonstrations, etc.)

Whether it’s referred to as Pro Sex, Post Porn or queer, the movement is a creative and revolutionary one that calls on us to reflect on what a pornographic image is, what sex work is, what gender is, and what the whole point of feminism is.
Disturbing, provocative and innovative, ‘Mutantes’ aims to play a saving role as it splits from popular discourse, which would have it that sex is best practiced in the bedroom, that women’s dignity depends on their ‘good’ behaviour and passivity, that the only feminist themes to be debated are gender violence and the wearing of headscarves.

‘Mutantes’ allows us to see that activists are already occupying other playing fields, inventing other ways of having sex and of thinking of sexuality and gender.

Watch the trailer below



4 October, 2011

From October 26th to 30th the famous Porn Film Festival will take place in the inspired city of Berlin. The Festival started in 2006 and over five years they managed to make an international success. Last year, more than 4.000 people attended the event. The contest includes a wide selection of feature films, documentaries, short films… and I’m glad to announce that Room 33 will be part of the competition. Independent films, famous directors… and content for everyone!

Download the pdf of the program, it’s in German but the website will soon be translated into English.

Below you’ll also find a few trailers of the feature films that will be shown during the festival. Enjoy!

My Own Master – Watch the trailer on LoveSick Robot


29 September, 2011

There currently is a debate in France about the use of the term “mademoiselle” (Miss). Feminists, backed by the famous movement “Osez le Féminisme“, claim it is condescending and shows gender inequality, and thus should be banned from our dictionary in favour of the use of “Madame” (Mrs). You can visit the official website of the campaign.
I thought that debate was very interesting, here’s my point of view:

  • I’ll start by saying that we may not be aware of the gender inequalities in our society, but they do exist. This kind of debate may seem a little “far-fetched” but it is essential to put into consideration these aspects of our life to make things and people evolve and wonder about what really is.
  • “Miss” originally means “unmarried” and thus “virgin“. This is simple: why would anyone want to make this distinction today? Unmarried doesn’t mean virgin anymore, so the term “miss” is basically obsolete.
  • Then, men aren’t subject to this distinction, men are not judged upon their marital situation, why should women be? Maybe because even today women’s capacities are judged only on their relation to men, because we apparently aren’t worth anything without them. Our credibility shouldn’t rely on whether we are with a man or not.
  • I agree that many people aren’t aware of the original meaning of the word since it’s more a habit than anything else, but changing wrong habits is a way to evolve. Besides, women’s credibility is sometimes altered by the use of this term, meaning they’re often seen as teenagers, silly, or simply incompetent.
  • And finally, I think people criticize too easily this kind of initiative saying it’s not important, that they should focus on something else, but making us think about what our daily habits hide is the best way to rethink our behaviour and change into a healthy and equal one.

I would very much like to know your opinion! So don’t hesitate to post a comment.

Via Global Spin


27 September, 2011

You’ve probably noticed that abortion isn’t the favourite topic of TV show producers. It’s always represented as something wrong, or something we shouldn’t talk about, and somehow we’re always expecting the character to admit that deep down she wants the baby or to finally change her mind at the last minute.

Well, on the first episode of the new season of Grey’s Anatomy, we see a young woman who clearly said she did not want to have kids and went through with the abortion, during the episode. I think it’s a real progress to admit on TV in front of thousands of spectators that abortion is real, and that it concerns all of us, ie regular people who deal with today’s society. In that episode Christina made a choice and stuck to it because that’s what is good for her, and the people around her finally accepted her decision.

It’s is also nice to see this time a character that is not a teenage girl who accidentally fell pregnant, but a grown woman who’s capable of making her own decisions. It’s doesn’t tell the audience that sex is bad, but that choice is a fundamental right.
Don’t get me wrong, abortion isn’t easy, but it’s a choice we should all have the right to make without suffering prejudice.

You can watch a sneak peek of the episode here.