Masturdate: I Love it When You Guide Me with Kristen & Nikki

Solo sex doesn't have to mean alone.

For Kristen and Nikki, masturbation is something they do together, a shared practice built on communication, trust and the particular intimacy of knowing exactly what your partner needs. They went from friends to lovers, which, they'll tell you, is the best possible foundation for this kind of connection.

Kristen loves it when Nikki tells them what to do. The pleasure of surrendering decisions, of simply following someone else's lead — that's their version of solo sex as intimacy. Domination as care. Power exchange as love language.

Part of the Masturdate series, four real couples, four honest conversations about how masturbation lives inside a relationship. Because sexual wellness starts with knowing yourself. And sharing that knowledge is one of the most intimate things you can do.