The Lust Weekly Roundup: The Strength of Kink Communities

This is the weekly Lust news roundup: catch up on the week’s sex-tech, sex-politics, porn for women feminism, and industry news here every week.

The top masturbation question people had during the pandemic — Can you guess what it is? [Mashable]

Meet The Digital Space Dismantling Shame Around Arab Women’s Bodies — “Named after the Arabic word for ‘wave’, Mauj is an online educational platform on a mission to dismantle the layers of intergenerational shame and guilt surrounding our bodies by normalising collective dialogue around sexual and reproductive health, and encouraging individual exploration of our bodies and identities.” [Vogue UK]

The Price of Being Gay in the MS-13 Gang? Death. — A Spanish documentary filmmaker shows a new side to gangs. “The film highlights the cruelty with which gays are treated by evangelical churches that initially embrace gang members inside the prisons, and a retrograde prison system, with a total ignorance of gender identity.” [Vice]

Season 2 of Netflix’s “Special”, about a gay writer living with cerebral palsy, has some of the most realistic gay sex scenes there’s ever been on TV — I’m excited season 2 is finally out! I love this Netflix series and its realistic depictions of gay sex and the spotlight it gives to the disabled community. [The Daily Beast]

Kink communities are about more than sex, especially in lockdown — “More than anything, the kink community and people who regularly attend sex parties offer each another emotional support. During the pandemic, the importance of this became clearer than ever.” [i-D]

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30% off The Squirt Collection: Get Wet With Erotic Bliss — My newest erotic film collection is here and it's the perfect ode to female masturbation.

Kink XXX-plainer: How to Make Your Masturbation Kinky (& free movie!) — From puppetry and orgasm control to dominating yourself - Lola Jean has all of the kinky ideas.

Music to Masturbate To: Lust Team Takeover the Fucking Playlist — Welcome to my Fucking Playlist takeover. Each week creatives from all over the world select their top songs for, you guessed it, fucking. This week, it's a special masturbation edition with the Erika Lust Communications team! If you like Frank Ocean, The Internet and Blood Orange - this one is for you.

Erotic Recess: Why I Masturbate on Zoom Every Sunday With Women Around The World — Ryn Pfeuffer shares how she has used pleasure and the sisterhood to survive this past year.

Every day I receive crowdsourced sexual confessions and fantasies that XConfessions guest directors and I turn into indie erotic films. Head to XConfessions now to confess your sexual fantasy. If your confession is chosen, you are rewarded with a one year access pass to the site and get to see your story on film.

Starting Over Again

This one is bittersweet and tender - and very relevant for so many of us. You've lost the love of your life - the core of the world you've built around them. Grief has consumed you for a long long time, and you feel lonely amongst your couple friends. The dating meat market hasn't appealed - but your sex drive and desire is returning - to be touched, to share moments with a glance between you and someone you deeply care about - wordless - just like you used to - but that takes time. You confide in your trepidation about starting over again to your caring friends. They "get you" and love you. So they arrange a beautiful intervention with someone going through the same thing - someone ready to give and love again. You are brought together, neither with any knowledge, at a friend's weekender, to help clean up and decorate, along with others. The weekender is surrounded by forest glades, walking tracks, and a beautiful lakeside. In town, there are cafes and bars to sit and talk. The weather is warm, the work is hard, and your best friend nudges you to look at the stranger, working, strong, smiling, and beautiful. Sooner or later you both realise each is solo and a gentle tension builds in the air. They like your views on life, you like their warmth, their lingering smile and you feel connected. Cut to the chase - your beautiful bestie pushes you both together, and you finally talk, share wine, build heat - followed by that first tentative kiss of starting over again - of gaining trust - of giving permission to explore and finally allow that longing without the guilt of abandoning their lost loves - in a tender torrent of emotional release. Side note: I lost the 42 year love of my life 6 weeks ago. There is no damn way I'm remotely interested in moving on for a fair while - even though years ago, she told me to find someone again if she were to pass first. We lost her on April 2nd this year after complications through surgery for a rare cancer. After her memorial, I found an unread message in our chats. It was a song - a message to me from her - it was what she wanted in the event things did not go to plan. I encourage you to watch the Youtube and read the lyrics to "Don't wait" TUNYA. No less than sung by that hot guy Rege from the Bridgerton series. In tidying her things, bereft and broken, I came across her kindle and read her fantasy stories: strong, dominant bad boy conquests who encounter strong women. It spurred me to really understand her fire and how she - and women - view things. That is why I am here. Regular porn paled - I miss her with an ache that cannot be described other than an agonising hole. So I am that person starting over again. I want to better connect and finally understand her passion, her fire, and her love for me. She wanted me to start over again - sometime in the future. Your care with stories is helping me do that.

Confession by Eros has lost his heart

XOXO,

Erika Lust