It’s national vagina day and to celebrate I’m debunking 5 common myths about this beautiful body part. So please, read on and stop believing five of these common myths today!
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Let’s start with the basics. Stop calling it a vagina! The vagina actually only refers to the inside bit, the internal passage that ends at the cervix. The best term for the whole thing is the vulva, which encompasses everything: the clitoris, urethra, labia, and the entrance to the vagina.
Vaginal discharge is completely normal and most women and girls get it. It’s an important part of your internal reproductive system and it helps to protect against infection, as well as lubricate and cleanse the vagina – so we conclude, it’s definitely not ‘dirty’. Healthy discharge should be white or clear and relatively odourless.
In fact, all healthy genitals have a natural odour and this will vary from person to person. The vulva can smell stronger at certain times of the month due to hormone changes, during pregnancy, or after sex.
Your vulva also cleanses itself naturally. If you leave it to its own devices it can naturally maintain a healthy pH and keep unhealthy bacteria at bay with discharge (see, again: discharge is not the enemy) that helps to eject germs and bacteria out of your body.
Let’s get this clear, this statement is an inaccurate and sexist myth used to slut shame women who have – in the eyes of the patriarchy – “too much” sex.
It’s not true at all. The vaginal muscles are incredibly stretchy, and while it does expand in size to prepare for intercourse when it is aroused, it shrinks back to its usual size afterwards.
You may also have noticed that this myth is only ever used by sexist people to refer to sexually active women who have sex with different people and not to sexually active women who have intercourse with just one person, even if they are technically having a higher quantity sex… So, please, continue having as much sex as you please and rest assured that your vagina is not loosening.
OK, let’s end with the one that everyone seems to have an opinion about.
Yes, about five years ago a group of French scientists apparently “proved” that squirting was involuntarily incontinence, aka pee. The media went crazy for it and suddenly everyone was claiming that squirt was in fact pee.
Firstly, that test only included seven women. A case study of SEVEN women is being used to represent half of the population…
Not only did it only include just seven women, the women who took part were chosen because they reported “recurrent and massive fluid emission during sexual stimulation”. I don’t think that we can honestly say that it was a representative study.
The study also contradicted several other studies that found zero or very low levels of creatine and urine in squirt.
Aside from science, let’s just use some common sense for a second. Those of you who have squirted before will know that it doesn’t look like pee, it doesn’t smell like pee, it doesn’t taste like pee, nor does it have the same consistency of pee. Not only that but most women will squirt and then still need to pee after sex…
It is of course possible that there may be some pee in squirt and the general consensus now is that squirting is a mixture of various elements, one of which is pee. But do we really need to strengthen the taboo and add more shame to the women out there who are squirting by telling them that actually they are just peeing themselves? No.
If it feels good, let’s keep doing it.
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So, how are you celebrating national vulva day?