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How to Kiss Someone & A Kissing Quiz with a Free Movie!

How to Kiss Someone & A Kissing Quiz with a Free Movie!

It's International Kissing Day: Let's take it back to basics
Erika Lust | July 06, 2021 | 5 min. read

It’s International Kissing Day, so (Covid-19 dependent) it’s time to pucker up and practice your smoochin' skills.

Kissing is an important part of physical and emotional intimacy with someone. Often when we start a new relationship, it's one of the most exciting things and can help you establish a bond with someone new. Yet over time, we lose the importance of kissing and it becomes part of a routine — a kiss to say hello, goodbye, good morning, and good night. The magic fades and what used to make our whole body tingle, becomes an after thought.

But a big smooch has a huge number of mental and physical benefits, including reduced stress and anxiety and increased feel-good hormones, plus when it's done right it can be an important part of foreplay.

So, whether you’re a seasoned smoocher or you’re new to the game of kissing, it’s time to pucker up! These are my suggestions for a good kiss but as long as you’re communicating with your partner and you’re both enjoying it, there’s no right or wrong way.

How to Kiss, for the First Time

If you’ve ever wondered how to kiss someone, let’s take it back to basics. Most people start with a peck for their first kiss as it’s not overly intimate and it’s pretty straight forward! The peck is a simple, light touch of the lips which are usually closed. Try to keep your lips soft and your mouth relaxed so that you don't pucker too hard.

Practice the pressure on the back of your hand. You don't want to be too hard and aggressive, but at the same time you don’t want to be too soft and timid, which could end up feeling a bit lifeless. Of course the pressure will change over time, when the situation is more passionate you may want to apply more pressure but when it’s a first kiss you might want to stick to a lighter touch.

With your first kisses, keep the tongue out of it and focus on the different ways you can kiss with just your lips — open your mouth slightly, kiss their bottom lip, then their top lip, and so on.

Please remember that the most important thing is to take your time so don’t rush it! Start slowly and gently, you don’t want to be a frantic kisser as it might ruin the moment so go slow until you find your rhythm.

How to French Kiss

If you want to know how to kiss with tongue and practice some open mouth kissing then remember that less is usually more when it comes to the tongue. You don’t want to feel like you’re giving a thorough examination of their tonsils. At the beginning you can start with some gentle touches with the tip of your tongue to theirs, just try not to use too much tongue and don’t jab at them with it. Your tongue is actually a very strong muscle so go steady!

Once you've had some gentle touches of the tongue you can try playing with some more pressure. You’ll know if you’re both enjoying it because you should be in a rhythm and they will be mirroring your technique, or vice versa.

Taking Your Kissing to the Next Level

If you’ve mastered the french kiss and you want to take it up to the next level, you can try gently biting on your partner’s lip or lightly tugging it with your teeth. However, remember that not everyone is comfortable with using teeth so be gentle and you can always ask your partner if they like biting or not.

Or, take a break from their lips — kiss along their jawline, their neck and collarbone or even a gentle nibble on their earlobe.

Use your hands — hold their face, play with their hair, stroke their back or their arms, press your body against theirs… the options are endless.

Different Kisses for Different Moments

Want to show affection in public without full-blown PDA? A quick peck on the shoulder while waiting in line at the movie theater is perfect.

Want to show someone that you care? A simple kiss on the forehead is affectionate and caring.

Want to be romantic? It may seem cheesy but a kiss on the hand can be very sweet.

Ready for some foreplay? A lingering trail of kisses on their neck and collarbone can be shiver-inducing.

There's Nothing Sexier Than Communication!

You can talk about the kiss before, after and even during your make out sesh,

Before you go in for the kiss remember to ask for their consent. A simple, "can I kiss you?" is very sexy. You can also ask your partner how they like to be kissed and if there's anything they don't like..

Whilst you're kissing you can use your partners non-verbal cues to see what they like best. What do they seem to respond to? Are they moaning when you bite their lip or are they going for more tongue?

And don’t be afraid to tell them how you like to be kissed or to give feedback after. “I really liked it when you…” or “Next time, we should try…” or “I don’t really feel comfortable with… Can we skip that next time?” can be really helpful to your partner and help to bring you closer to each other.

Quiz time! How much do you really know?

So, have you been paying attention? Take the ultimate kissing quiz on Else Cinema to see just how much you know & then watch a special movie all about kissing! Whether you’re a smooching connoisseur or a pecking novice, your free movie from Else Cinema will be waiting for you at the end.

Take the quiz & then let me know how you got on in the comments!


Erika Lust is an award-winning filmmaker, producer, and writer who's focus on female pleasure, cinematic values, and ethics in adult cinema have helped to change how pornography is consumed. Erika Lust Films was born in 2004 and since then Erika has ... Read More
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