After some time with the same partner, it can seem hard to find exciting new things to try, especially when life is busy. Every week I get confessions which reveal that a lot of you fantasise about exploring outside the box and in sexual unknown territory (literally). That’s why I decided to give you some tips this week and talk with you about how a small geographical change to the usual environment can make all the difference. According to a study, conducted in Quebec, over 80% of Canadian residents fantasise about having sex in an unusual place (The Journal of Sexual Medicine). So why not give it a shot?
As the temperature is getting lower and lower (at least in most parts of Europe), sex in the open might sound a lot more appealing in theory than actually doing it. But nonetheless, I dare you to escape into the wild (or your closest piece of nature, for all of you metropolitans) and get intimate. The sense of freedom you get in nature combined with a rush of adrenaline, because theoretically you could get caught at any minute, makes sexual outdoor experiences so special.
So let’s take our cravings seriously and start exploring…
There are endless opportunities and outdoor spots, so I don’t want to limit your imagination by telling you where to go exactly. I’d much rather like to show you some examples.
If you want to be on the safe side – because, let’s face it, being in the open leaves a lot of room for getting exposed and I don’t want you to have negative encounters or getting fined the first time – having sex in a parked car in nature can be a good point to start. Everything that is not your home counts as outdoor ?
Being inside a tent can be the perfect place for your naughty encounters with the wild as well, since it still lets you experience a broad range of nature – like hearing outdoor sounds (and adding your own), feeling the wind shake up your tent, while having enough privacy and assurance of not getting caught nude in the open. In the night a bonfire can add the extra romantic touch and you don’t have to worry about the cold anymore.
For the more venturous ones of you, there are a million opportunities from scenic mountain tracks, hidden lakes, beaches or simply in the water. If you don’t have access to mountains or the sea, big forests and parks can be great as well! I know, in big cities it is a little bit harder to find these secret hidden spots to live out your fantasy, but sometimes going a bit out of the city by train or car can already give you the wilderness feeling.
Don’t worry if your sexual outdoor fantasy does not include being covered in dirt from head to toe or having grass stains all over your clothes. I’ve got you covered with some positions that don’t require scraped knees and backs. I have filmed many outdoor sex scenes throughout my career so all pictures in this post are taken from one of the movies from the XConfessions series. I have talked with many performers about how to make shooting sex outside as pleasurable as possible. Let me share some pornographer wisdom with you!
This first one is probably the easiest position of all. If you don’t want to get exposed too much by getting full body naked. The only thing you need is something to hold on to, really anything can be suitable: a car, trees, rocks or… a plane as the stunning Luke Hotrod and Carolina Abril are demonstrating in the picture below.
The almost-Ballerina position is one of the easier ones and you don’t need any equipment. Wearing a skirt or dress makes it even simpler and might give you that sense of security you need to enjoy yourself, knowing that you can cover yourself up quickly if it needs be.
During and after your escape into the wild for some outdoor lust and passion, please take care to be safe and also respectful to nature and your surroundings. This includes watching out for dangerous or hurtful plants that should better not come in contact with your genitals and maybe also having an eye on animals (depending on the country you are in). And lastly, as an environmentally friendly person you probably already know that you should not leave your condoms (and other waste) after the fun ? Only jerks litter!
When choosing the place, try not to do anything illegal! The last thing I want for you is to get arrested in the middle of the fun. In some countries you can actually end up in prison for getting caught outdoors. However, the thrill of doing something you are actually not supposed to be doing and maybe getting caught can reinforce sexual excitement and the pleasure you get from it might be worth the danger.
So what are you waiting for? Why don’t you spend the next Sunday on a little hike in the mountains, or drive out of the city with your partner and see where it goes? And afterwards please don’t forget to confess and inspire us on XConfessions!
If you now still need more visual inspiration I recommend checking out the Outdoor Sex compilation in my Store!
If you have any questions or if there is a certain topic you would like to read about next, message me or leave a comment!
Lots of love,
I know that many people struggle to speak openly about their sexual desires with their partner so I created this app to help those who might feel shy voicing their fantasies. Or maybe you feel totally comfortable speaking about your fantasies, but you’re ready to discover some new kinks that you might not have thought about yet. The XConfessions App can be used for those couples who want to discover some new kinks and spice things up in their sex life.
Read what the media says about it:
A game-changer for exploring sexual fantasies (Elite Daily)
XConfessions app helps couples talk about their fantasies (Bustle)
Erika Lust’s new app is making it easier to talk about kinks and fantasies (Dazed)