Masturbating with a Vagina: 10 Tips & Tricks for Solo Sex

It’s Masturbation Month and as I’m urging you all to self pleasure for 31 days (download my free masturbation inspiration calendar here!) I thought now would be a good time to look at some fun tips & tricks for solo sex if you have a vagina.

We can fall into a routine with our masturbation sessions and don’t always put as much effort into solo sex as we do with partnered sex, so this month I want you to take some time to think about your routine – mix it up, experiment with new things, take your time, and give your body the pleasure it deserves (maybe even watch some of my porn for women over on XConfessions😉). Plus, if you’re in need of some new masturbation tools, check out the giveaway on my Instagram to be in with a chance of winning a sexy toy from LELO!

Ready, set, masturbate… ?

1. Erogenous Exploration

First things first, remember that masturbation doesn’t have to be limited to your genitals. Touch your breasts, thighs, stomach, feet… anywhere that feels good.

2. Do The DIY Dildo

Give your usual sex toys a break and mix it up with some new objects in your home. Showerhead? Yes please. Back of a cold spoon on your clitoris? Go on then…

3. Move It

While you’re probably used to lying on your back on your bed and using your fingers or toys to stimulate yourself, you can have a completely new experience just by changing positions or moving around your home! Try sitting on your knees and pressing your clitoris up against a vibrator, stimulate yourself in doggie style, close your legs, open your legs, lift your legs as high as possible, lay flat on your stomach, stand up… try it all and see what feels good! If you always masturbate in your bedroom try masturbating somewhere else for a change. Kitchen, bathroom, sofa, yoga mat… your home is your oyster.

4. Booty Nights

If you’re curious about butt stuff then you can start experimenting with the glorious anus by yourself. Start your journey by circling the anus with a lubed (very important) finger and slowly working your way in. If that feels good then you can experiment with butt plugs and toys!

5. Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

Do it in front of a mirror & see just how sexy you are!

6. Turn on your Mind

Whether you want to watch some adult movies, listen to some audio porn, remember sexy times from your past, look at arousing images, or read some erotica, try experimenting with some different ways to turn yourself on between the ears.

7. Water Baby

Water can be extremely sensual, and there’s nothing like a steamy room to get you in the mood. Get in the bath or shower and pleasure yourself under running water, you can also experiment by changing the temperature of the water from warm to cold to heighten your senses and see what feels good. If you’ve got the luxury of a hot tub jet or just an adjustable shower head, you can use the added pressure to stimulate your clitoris. And if you’re feeling really frisky try a suction dildo that attaches to the surface of the tub.

Splish splash…

8. Music

Get some tunes on. Music can really help set the mood for your sexy time, create a Spotify playlist with all the songs that get your juices flowing or check out my sexy-time playlist for when you’re ready to get down at your party for one.

9. Temperature Play

Whether you buy special heating/cooling lube or you do it DIY and get some ice cubes and a heat pad, it’s fun to experiment with temperature things at home alone before you try it with a partner.

10. Edging

Bring yourself to the edge of orgasm and then slow everything down so you don’t actually climax. Go through this cycle a few times for as long as you can for a more intense orgasm when you finally give it to yourself! You can make this even more extreme by forbidding yourself from orgasm all together. Try getting yourself to the edge, and stop just before you climax. Force yourself to get up, walk away and continue with whatever you were doing beforehand. Depending how intense you want it to be, you choose how long you forbid yourself for.

I would love to hear more about your experiences and any other tips you have. Please let me know your thoughts in the comments!

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