A Recipe for Nipple Play During Partnered Sex

Nipples: The two little buttons of pleasure on your chest that are all too often forgotten about. I’ve decided that it’s high time to address this crime of ignorance and bring some real attention to them. No, I’m not talking about a quick kiss your way down to the genitals or a little squeeze during penetration… I’m talking good, hearty, nipple-focused play like you see in my porn for women Titty Titty Bang Bang on Else Cinema.

It’s time to give them the love that they deserve! How could we be ignoring these nuggets of fun? They are a wonderful erogenous zone with more than 800 nerve endings. And, while men and women have more or less the same amount of nerve endings, women's are more dispersed and tend to be more sensitive thanks to hormones. But that doesn’t mean that all genders can’t enjoy a bit of nipple play.

And, did you know that some people can have an orgasm from nipple stimulation alone? Yep, that’s right… a nipple-gasm.

Read on for my recipe for the perfect nipple play. This guide is directed at someone playing with their partner’s nipples, but of course everything can be adapted for solo or group play!

Prepare your station.. aka talk about it

As with everything you want to try with another person, you must talk about nipple play before you plunge straight in. Some people like to have their nipples played with and others don't. A simple question to find out if they do is all that it takes.

If your partner is into it be sure to ask what they like and don’t like. Some like licking, but can’t stand biting. Others like harder play such as flicking, while others can't stand their nipples being touched at all.

Also, be aware that some trans and gender non conforming people have a range of feelings about their nipples and chest, so if your partner identifies as such it’s best to have a good conversation before touching at all.

Finally, I’m sure I don’t need to spell this one out, but as no two bodies are exactly the same, no two nipples are the same. Everyone has a different threshold when it comes to sensitivity so start slow to find out how sensitive your partner’s are.

Next, heat things up (bring on the tease)

If you have some oil or lotion to hand, start by dripping some of it in between the nipples and rubbing it around the belly, the rib cage and in between the breasts/pectorals. Don’t touch the nipples straight away, you want to build up some sexual tension first.

Once you’ve spent some time here you can move closer to the nipple but don’t touch the areola or nipple just yet! Try kissing, stroking and licking the breasts/pectorals. You’ll know when it’s time to move closer.

Then, add the fingers

You can try a few different techniques with your fingers such as a slow, circular motion using your finger tips around the areolas and nipples. You can quicken the pace according to what feels good for the receiver. When you notice the nipples starting to harden, the more sensitive they are to direct stimulation.

You can also try spreading your fingers to massage the whole breast/pectoral area with the nipple placed inbetween your index and middle finger. When you move your hand up the nipple will squeeze between the fingers, you can also give it an extra squeeze with some more pressure if they want it.

If your partner likes a harder touch you can try gently pinching and twisting the nipples. Or try placing the nipple between your thumb and index finger to roll it between your fingers whilst gently pulling it.

Followed by the tongue

Bring the tongue into the game and you won’t regret it. Start by kissing or licking the entire breast or pectoral area to create anticipation. Then make gentle circles around the areola with the tip of your tongue before finally using it to stimulate the nipple itself. Try kissing, sucking and licking, and ask your partner what feels good. Nipple sucking can also be enhanced by playing with the tender erect tip of the nipple with your tongue, circling or flicking it while you suck.

For some people, nipple-sucking feels even better when the teeth get involved, in this case you can try some nibbling and biting. Always start very gently with this to get a sense of what your partner likes and ask them to help you figure it out. Tell them you will nibble super gently and then slowly increase the pressure.

If your partner is enjoying the nipple play you can try using your free hand to mimic your mouth on the other nipple, so that both nipples are being attended to. And when the nipples are wet you can also try blowing on them to make them cold and extra sensitive.

Finally, an optional garnishing of toys

Fingers and mouths are great, but if you wanna step up your nipple play you might want to experiment with some toys. You’ve got a lot of options here. Vibrator usage isn’t limited to between your legs! You can grab your favourite vibe and use it on the nipples for some extra stimulation. Trace it in circles all around the breasts and work your way up to the nipple. You can also use this whilst kissing the other nipple for a double whammy. If your partner is enjoying that and you want to splash out on a new nip-specific toy there are also nipple vibrators that come with a suction action as well.

Asides from vibrators, if your partner likes some pain you could try using nipple clamps or pegs. As the name implies, these babies will clamp down on your partner’s nipples. They can heighten sensitivity while they’re on and can create a hurts-so-good sensation when removed.

Or, experiment with heat by bringing in some ice or some body safe candles (you can read my guide on wax play for more on this).

So, next time you’re having some sexy time be sure to bring some extra special attention to the nipples (if your partner wants you to). As we know, we’re all taught sex in such a goal orientated way with the focus being on penetration and genital stimulation that we often overlook our other erogenous zones.