A Guide to Anal Fingering & A Free Movie

Anal fingering involves using (you guessed it) a finger or 3 to penetrate, massage, and pleasure the anus. The anus is packed full of nerve endings and so stimulating it can be a very pleasurable experience for all genders! For people with penises, the anus is home to the oh-so pleasurable prostate, but even for people with vulvas anal stimulation can feel great because the rectum and anus are full of nerve-endings.

Anal fingering can be done as part of foreplay, a build up to anal sex or pegging, part of anal masturbation, or simply as the main event. Plus, it’s cheap, simple and effective; you don’t need any fancy tools or expensive toys, you have everything you need at… hand.

Here is everything you need to know before you get started because, as with everything in sex, there is an art to anal fingering.

Anal fingering solo

Trying anything new by yourself before trying it with a partner is always a good idea. Practicing alone lets you experience being the giver and the receiver, allowing you to know how it feels on both sides. This can make the experience with a partner a lot easier and if you’re going to be the giver, it’s good to know how it feels to receive.

To practice alone, try bringing some anal play into your next masturbation session. Using plenty of lube and going slow, you can start by circling the anus first and applying gentle pressure from the outside. I recommend trying this at the same time as masturbating with your genitals, when you’re already turned on. Touch your vulva or penis first, and then when you’re turned on you can start experimenting with your butt. Once the external massaging feels good and you’re suitably turned on you can try inserting a finger in gently and seeing how it feels. Experiment with different movements and pressures to see what feels good. A good place to try if for the first time is also in the shower, maybe you can use the shower head on your genitals and your fingers on your butt ;).

Talk about it

As with anything new that you’re going to try with your partner, communication is key. Talk about it first with your partner, ask each other questions. Is this something that you both want to try? What sort of protection will you use? What are you hoping to get from the experience?

Lube

The anus is not self lubricating so it’s really, really important to have a lot of lube on hand to ensure a comfortable experience for everyone involved. If you're using latex gloves, finger cots, or toys make sure you use a water-based lube as opposed to an oil-based one.

Finger cots & latex gloves

If you and your partner are not fluid bonded I recommend using a latex glove or a finger cot to ensure the most hygienic and pleasurable experience. Gloves not only provide protection but also smooth out any ridges or bumps on your fingers making it easier to glide into your partner's anus and they also help to avoid any uncomfortable cuts from sharp fingernails.

No double dipping

If the person being fingered has a vulva it is very, very important to clean your hands/swap your gloves between each hole. You must not “double dip” and go between the vulva and the anus as this can spread bacteria and lead to some pretty nasty infections.

The poop conversation

Oh yep, I’m going there. Look if we’re dealing with the anus there is a chance that we could be dealing with some poop. No shame, it’s perfectly natural and we all have it. But if you/your partner are squeamish or you simply don’t want to run into the chance of having some poo on your fingers then you can do some simple preparation to avoid it.

You’ll want to ensure you’ve emptied your bowels before. Anal penetration can cause the sensation of needing to poop, and even though you wont actually poop, your worrying might interfere with being able to relax and enjoy yourself. You can also consider starting with a bath or shower to relax and to address any concerns you may have about hygiene. Clean the area with warm water and a ph balanced soap. You can also use a simple anal douche if you're looking to get your insides squeaky clean.

Please keep in mind that whilst these hygiene tips will reduce the chance of an accident, it can still happen. Try not to worry about it or panic if it does. Clean things up and forget about it, no big deal!

Techniques

When you’re fingering someone’s anus it’s very important to take your time and go slow. Enter with one finger art first and a lot of lube, you shouldn’t be forcing anything in and you shouldn’t go straight in with two fingers. This is a slow process.

Once you’re inside you can gently massage the inside of the anus or slowly slide your finger in and out. Once your partner is warmed up you may be able to add a second or a third finger, of course you should ask them before doing anything but if they want it and you can feel that there is space then you can add some more lube and gently put your fingers inside.

When they are suitably warmed up if they want a faster motion you can speed up and simulate a vibration with your hand. It can be quite tiring and hard on the wrist so you may want to save this towards the end!

If you feel the anus tense up at any point, go slower and back off a little bit. Let their body guide the experience.

Stimulating the prostate

If you’re fingering the anus of someone with a prostate you may want to try and stimulate this pleasure point. Only people with penises have prostates, and it is a gland located between the bladder and the root of the penis. It’s surrounded by nerve endings which is why it can feel amazing when touched just right.

The prostate is reached via the anus and is located about two inches inside the rectum on the front wall of the body. It may feel like a small fleshy bulb of tissue and it tends to swell with arousal. It will feel different from the other tissue in there and it’s often described as being roughly the size of a walnut.

To stimulate the prostate you can try a “come hither” motion. Enter your lubed finger and curl the top of it, just like people do when they are trying to touch the g-spot. Then use a “come here” motion towards the belly button and keep repeating the motion while gradually increasing your speed as the pleasure builds.

Alternatively, you can try a circular motion. Use the pad of your finger and run it all around the prostate, circling your way around the entire perimeter of the gland. Change up the pressure and speed and continue with the combo that feels best, allowing the pleasure to build up.

Remember to talk!

If you’re the giver you need to check in with your partner each time you try something to see how it feels for them. Be ready to ask questions like “faster or slower?” and “harder or softer?” to fine tune what works. If you’re the receiver, let your partner know that you’ll be guiding them and giving them feedback. Try to speak in specifics like “left or right” and “harder or softer” rather than just saying something is OK.

Aftercare

Aftercare is the process of taking care of your partner after sex. It exists in many different forms and depends on the needs of the individual; for some people it’s cuddling, for others it’s food and water, and for some people it’s a conversation about the experience. It doesn’t have to be sentimental but it should show the person that you care about them and their needs even after the sexual experience is over.

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