The Lust Weekly Roundup: Lessons Queer Culture Can Teach

This is the weekly Lust news roundup: catch up on the week’s sex-tech, sex-politics, feminism, and industry news here every week.

Have you ever wondered why we have sexual fantasies? Discover 10 Super Common Sexual Fantasies – and How You Can Enjoy Them. [Women’s Health]

And, if that article got you excited about your own sexual fantasy, share it with me on XConfessions where I turn two crowdsourced sexual confessions a month into porn for women!

Do Trendy ‘G-Spot Stimulating’ Creams and Gels Actually Work? Let’s put them to the test! [Vice]

Using a point system could transform your sex life, according to a veteran sex therapist. Here's how. [Insider]

A Beginner’s Guide to Wax Play, So You Can (Safely) Turn Up the Heat. [Well+Good]

For those looking for a little something more, check out my article on wax play for beginners. And, watch Mona Wales play with candles in Safe Word while she explores BDSM for the first time.

What queer culture can teach everyone about communicating. [Mic]

How to Talk About Sex With Your Partner (& Free Films to Inspire You!) Read my top tips and enjoy some free Lust Cinema Original adult movies and series with your partner. [Lust Zine]

Sexual Health & Polyamory: How to Have Safer Sex with Multiple Partners “Everybody Get on Truvada!” & Other Things NOT to Say to Polyamorous People. [Lust Zine]

Cooking Naked with Charlie Ann Max: Vegan Maca Guacamole Full, uncensored version! [Lust Zine]

Lust Loves: Amy-Jean Muller and her New Book of Poetry 'Baptism by Fire' Stoya says, "Rage, here, is transcended into art”. [Lust Zine]

Every day I receive crowdsourced sexual confessions and fantasies that XConfessions guest directors and I turn into indie erotic films. Head to XConfessions now to confess your sexual fantasy. If your confession is chosen, you are rewarded with a one year access pass to the site and get to see your story on film.

The Graysexual

As a queer guy that is part of the ace spectrum, I'm more reserved and not eagerly looking for sexual intimacy. This does not mean I never think about it or would like to someday explore. On the contrary, my libido fantasizes about the eventual possibility of sharing intimacy with somebody experienced that introduces me to this new world. Since I'm queer, sometimes I think of woman teaching me how to pleasure her, showing me the places that she wants me to kiss and treat nicely, making me understand and experience a body that is foreign to me. When I think of a guy being the initiator, he exploits those places of pleasure in my body, which have only been touched by myself. He also wants me to touch him, feel the enjoyment of pleasuring a body I'm familiar with but it's not my own. Those two lovers make me understand that sex is about connection, that I should not be afraid of it and that it is okay to lower my inhibitions sometimes. As my teachers, they allow me to explore the limits of the pleasure I can feel and make others feel. The final lesson they instruct is that I should embrace my queerness and difference: be unashamed of who I am and thankful for liking what is similar and different to me. That is what sex is in the mind of this graysexual.

Confession by Frankie Relax

XOXO,

Erika Lust