Lust Stories: Still Sexy, 5 Older People Enjoying Their Sex Lives

In many European and American cultures, visualising anyone over the age of 55 having sex is often met with discomfort and squirms. Why are our societies so prejudiced towards older people experiencing pleasure? The thought of someone with a wrinkle enjoying sex, or a less than perfect body having an orgasm fills many young people with horror to the point that they kid themselves that older people just don’t have sex.

Well, I’m here to tell you that older people are indeed having sex, some of them are even having better sex than they did in their 20s, and some of them are having it well into their 80s. I spoke to five people over the age of 55 about sex and pleasure, to show that desire does not disappear with age.

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But first, let’s hear what Brenda, Max, Steve, Bonnie & Joel have to say about their sex lives…

Brenda lives in Florida, USA, she is is 61 years old, heterosexual and married.

How is your sex life now compared to when you were in your 20s?

Sex now is very different from when I was in my twenties because in my twenties I didn’t have sex because I wanted to, I had sex because the guys expected it and it was just what was done. It wasn’t that I didn’t enjoy it, I was always easily able to have orgasms, but I never took charge and went to bed with someone because I wanted to. In my twenties I was very insecure about my body and unsure of how to be a good lover. I was shy about exploring what I might want to do in bed, and things were pretty vanilla. Anything a bit different seemed weird or dirty.

Now sex is very different because I know what I want and what I like, And Im not afraid to ask for it. I feel secure in my body (for the most part), and generally feel I’m a good lover. I am open-minded although I do have clear boundaries. My husband and I have been together for over 20 years and sex is important to both of us – we like to try and keep it fresh and exciting.

There is also one other difference too, sex now is enhanced with hormone replacement for both of us. It keeps our drive high and things functioning the way they should.

What kind of sex do you enjoy?

I enjoy partnered sex, some light BDSM, some role-play, “dirty talk” and there’s nothing wrong with a quickie now and then.

Do you masturbate?

I masturbate regularly. I use toys, watch porn. I also enjoy masturbating with my husband watching. Ever since I had my first orgasm I believe you should have an orgasm every day if possible. It’s one of the best things we have in life.

How do you feel about your body?

I generally love my body, although I am very vain and sometimes find the normal aging process a bit daunting. I try to fight it every day. I am not, however, typical of my age. I am very active and really try to stay fit and attractive. Most people don’t know how old I really am and are surprised when I tell them.

What do you wish society knew about older people and sex?

I wish people in society knew that older people have and enjoy regular sex. That just because you are over 55 doesn’t mean you aren’t sexy and horny!

Max is single and heterosexual, living in Scotland.

How is your sex life now compared to when you were in your 20s?

I have less sex now but it is of a much higher quality and emotional intensity than the hot and passionate sex of my twenties.

What kind of sex do you enjoy?

After being in a relationship for over forty years I find myself single now with a totally different life. I now work as an art model and have a non-live-in partner. We both lead busy lives but that only helps to make the time we have together more precious and sex is both loving and intense.

What do you wish society knew about older people and sex?

As an older man, erections are not always guaranteed and orgasms come strictly in units of one for any session, but the intensity and pleasure that you can get from pleasing your partner with fingers and/or tongues is beyond reward, and sex is a slower but far more intense than anything you can achieve when you are young if you accept your body and your ability and commit to enjoying the fabulous sensations and sharing that you can achieve

What do you wish you knew about sex then, that you know now?

That it was going to get better!

Anything else you want to tell us?

There’s no need for blue pills – just go with the flow and enjoy it.

Bonnie & Joel are a couple living in the USA. Bonnie is 72 years old and bisexual, Joel is 70 years old and heterosexual. They have a website ForeverSexual.com, teach at a local senior’s centre and are in the process of developing their popular classes and discussion groups into online classes. Among many things, they have taught a squirting workshop with a demonstration at Desire Resort and had the honour of appearing in Joan Price and jessica drake’s award winning film “Wicked Pictures Guide to Sex; Senior Sex Edition”.

How is your sex life now compared to when you were in your 20s?

Bonnie: In my early twenties I was a free-spirited hippie. I was married for a time but was always seeking sexual partners outside of the marriage. In my late twenties I settled down (most of the time) with one partner and had two children. I loved sex and had a high sex drive. I was also beginning to explore my bisexuality and discovered the world of sex toys. I was also teaching sexual and reproductive health at a women’s collective.

Joel: I have certainly learned more about sex (and life) than I knew about in my twenties. After leaving a teenage marriage, I hit the road and became a hippie. Sex and body positivity was open as was the language of sex and this was pre- HIV and post-Pill. In spite of that I was still missing a lot of knowledge and experience with the varieties of sex. Since then I have discovered anal play, BDSM, swinging, polyamory and have become much more comfortable with myself.

What kind of sex do you enjoy? (solo, partnered, group, BDSM, “vanilla”… etc)

Bonnie: Such a broad question. I’ve done “all of the above” at various points in my life. Right now I am in an open relationship but due to some health problems (fibromyalgia, back pain) I only have sex with my partner as he knows my body so well. We try to do different things each time to keep it interesting.

Joel: Yes….. I enjoy solo (sex with the one I love 😉 ), BDSM both dom and occasionally sub, certainly partnered, multiple partners, “vanilla” sex, exhibitionism with consent, secret public sex, group sex.

Do you think the way you feel about sex now has evolved with society’s views on sex?

Bonnie: I think I was way ahead of North American society’s views for many years. I have always been very open about my body and my desires.

Joel: I grew up in the 50’s/60’s and my views about sex began to evolve with the invention of the Pill and the Flower Children. Sex and attitudes, for me, have continued to evolve over the decades. I am learning and changing continually. I hope that never changes.

How has your sexuality changed over time, if it has?

Bonnie: When Joel and I got together nine years ago we were having sex almost every day. Now I am interested about once a week. We need to use lots of lube and be careful about positions due to various aches and pains.

I also used to masturbate almost every day. Now I often find I can’t reach orgasm with a vibrator, but my partner can still get me off with fingers or tongue.

Joel: It has become more adventuresome over the years. Also my attitudes towards women and gender roles evolved for the better. I have had excellent teachers.

Follow Bonnie and Joel’s work on their website ForeverSexual.com!

Steve is a 67 year old man located in the USA. He is married and hetero-flexible.

How is your sex life now compared to when you were in your 20s?

Less sex now at 67 than in my twenties. It takes more time to recover, I use Viagra and I am horny less frequently.

What kind of sex do you enjoy?

I enjoy solo, partnered and group sex. Have only dabbled in BDSM as it is not a thing for me.

What do you wish society knew about older people and sex?

That we still like to have sex and it is just as pleasurable now as it was in my earlier years.

Thanks so much to Brenda, Max, Steve, Bonnie & Joel for speaking to me. Your answers were insightful and, to put it frankly, I’m looking forward to keep learning, discovering and enjoying sex for many more years to come!

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